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Love is everywhere you look. People talk about love in pop songs, on TV, across social media, over dinner, at work, and in school hallways. There is also growing scientific interest in romantic love, as is evident from the increased number of publications on this topic, the organization of conferences—and the Greater Good Science Center’s new project on the science of love, which launches this month.
Why? First, romantic love pertains to virtually everyone. More than 80% of American adolescents reported to have been involved in at least one romantic relationship by the age of 18, according to one 2003 study , and love has been observed in almost all cultures that have been studied . Second, when people fall in love, it greatly affects their lives . People are sometimes even willing to change their friends, job, country, or religion to be with their beloved.
But do we really understand love? Unfortunately, there are many misconceptions about romantic love permeating popular media, the scientific community, or both. Some of these stem from the assumptions we make about romantic love. Others arise from hypotheses or interpretations put forth in scientific articles being cited in other articles as empirical evidence. Collectively, these misconceptions hamper the progress of the scientific understanding of romantic love—and they can lead any of us astray when we think about love in our own lives. Here are six misconceptions about romantic love that are not supported by the research to date.
The first misconception is that romantic love is something that must exist between two people. For example, an anonymous reviewer of one of my manuscripts commented, “It’s odd that ~1/6 of the sample who were purportedly ‘in love’ were not in a relationship with the target of their love.”
Contrary to what the reviewer seemed to think, it does not take two to love. While romantic love has obvious interpersonal aspects (i.e., people are in love with another person and romantic relationships involve more than one person by definition), romantic love is not necessarily dyadic or interpersonal. For example, people can develop love feelings for someone before they become involved in a romantic relationship—and they can still experience love feelings after a relationship has ended. People can be in love with someone who doesn’t love them back. People can love someone they have never been and will never be in a romantic relationship with. People can experience love feelings for someone they have never even interacted with. Examples of this are love at first sight and parasocial attachment to celebrities or fictional characters in movies, TV shows, video games, and books.
So, romantic love is not always a social process and does happen outside of relationships. The misconception that romantic love only happens within relationships has led some people to confuse relationship satisfaction and love feelings. But people can be satisfied with a relationship if it fulfills some need (such as money, housekeeping, sex, protection, child care, status, personal growth), even if they don’t love their partner. And in abusive relationships, it is possible that the victim loves their abuser while being unsatisfied with the relationship. So, relationship satisfaction is not the same as how in love someone is.
Many of us believe love is an emotion, like fear, anger, sadness, surprise, disgust, and joy.
Although scientists do not agree on how many and which types of love exist, they do agree that there are multiple types of love—and that’s actually one reason to assume that love as a whole is not an emotion. For example, researchers have distinguished between infatuation (aka passionate love) and attachment (aka companionate love). Infatuation is the early stage of love that is associated with euphoria, nervousness, and butterflies in the stomach. Attachment, on the other hand, takes time to develop and is a calming, comforting feeling.
There are also reasons to assume that the different types of love themselves are not emotions either. First, love elicits various emotions depending on the situation. Loving someone who loves you back can make you experience the emotion joy, while loving someone who does not love you back can make you experience the emotion sadness.
There’s another reason why the different types of love are not really emotions: My own neuroscience research finds that distraction after a romantic breakup decreased negative feelings but not the intensity of love, and that negative reappraisal of an ex-partner (e.g., “They weren’t so great”) decreased love intensity yet increased negative feelings.
Those observations suggest that love regulation and emotion regulation are distinct. In other words, love regulation targets love feelings (such as infatuation and attachment), whereas emotion regulation targets emotions (such as fear, anger, sadness, surprise, disgust, and joy).
Finally, love can be very long-lasting, whereas emotions are usually quite fleeting. Research has shown that emotions typically last for a half hour up to several days. The longest-lasting emotion was sadness, which can last two to five days. In contrast, it is not uncommon for infatuation to last for weeks or months and for attachment to last for years or decades.
Rather than an emotion, scientists have called love an attitude, a script, or a motivation or drive—like craving, lust, hunger, and thirst.
The third misconception is that romantic love has mainly positive effects.
Of course, love has many positive effects on people and society. Infatuation, for example, elicits positive emotions such as euphoria, and romantic relationships increase happiness and life satisfaction. But it is often overlooked that love has many negative effects on people and society, as well.
First, love can elicit several negative emotions. Infatuation is stressful, love can be accompanied by jealousy, the death of a romantic partner may elicit intense grief, and unreciprocated love and romantic breakups trigger sadness and shame.
Second, love can reduce general well-being. Romantic breakups are a main risk factor for depression in adolescents. And dysfunctional romantic relationships and romantic breakups are associated with decreased happiness and life satisfaction.
Third, people who are in love may be distracted from their duties (such as work or homework) because they think about their beloved all the time. Even though this may not bother the infatuated person, it may result in a loss of productivity or at least frustration in the people around the lover.
Fourth, love plays a role in several mental disorders (such as sexual dysfunctions, paraphilic disorders, and erotomanic and jealous delusional disorders), as well as in suicidal behavior. Finally, love is associated with criminal behavior such as stalking, domestic violence, and homicide.
It may be clear that love has both positive and negative effects, the latter of which cause substantial individual, social, and economic burden. I hope that scientific research on romantic love can both increase the positive effects of love and decrease its negative effects on people and society.
It’s important to know that each brain region, neurotransmitter, and hormone has multiple functions—and also that each function requires multiple brain regions, neurotransmitters, and hormones. Love affects behavior, feelings, thoughts, and bodily responses in many different ways. And each of these “symptoms” of romantic love depends on different brain regions, and multiple neurotransmitters and hormones.
Take, for example, the fact that people have better memory for information that has to do with their beloved, which is related to how arousing this information is. We know that better memory for exciting information depends on two brain regions called the amygdala and the hippocampus, the neurotransmitter noradrenaline, and the hormones adrenaline and cortisol. Therefore, it can be expected that those parts of our nervous systems are involved in the better memory for information related to the beloved.
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Or consider this: We get clammy hands when we are infatuated. Researchers know that this sweating is part of the flight-or-fight response and involves release of the neurotransmitter acetylcholine in the sympathetic nervous system, which in turn is controlled by the hypothalamus in the brain. Therefore, that brain region and neurotransmitter likely play a role in getting clammy hands when infatuated.
Even though scientists typically understand that there is no dedicated love component in our nervous systems, they could improve the focus of their research questions and designs by understanding romantic love as an emergent process that consists of numerous moving parts, each with its own neurobiological basis. But why should everyone else care? Because, perhaps, if you share this understanding of love feelings as complex neurological processes, you might better understand why love can feel so complicated to you!
There is a misconception that we will soon be able to the develop a love drug, which is something that people have pursued for ages, for example through sorcery. Even nowadays, people across the world wishfully use aphrodisiacs and love philters. Although evidence-based pharmacological manipulation of love feelings may be possible at some point, several issues prevent the development of an effective and safe “love pill” in the short term.
We are only just starting to learn which neurotransmitters and hormones might play a role in the different types of love. For example, several neuroimaging studies have shown that certain brain regions (such as the caudate, putamen, ventral tegmental area, insula, cingulate cortex, and inferior frontal gyrus) are more active when people view pictures of their beloved than when they view pictures of other people. Some of those brain regions (especially the caudate, putamen, and ventral tegmental area) contain a lot of the neurotransmitter dopamine. The activation of these dopaminergic brain regions in response to the beloved has been taken to mean that romantic love is associated with high levels of dopamine. However, it is important to note that the method used in those neuroimaging studies (functional magnetic resonance imaging) only shows what areas of the brain receive extra oxygen through blood. But this method cannot show whether dopamine is released.
As far as I know, there is only one study that has actually measured dopamine levels when people view pictures of their beloved (compared to when they view pictures of friends), using a method called positron emission tomography. That study shows more dopamine release when people view the beloved (as opposed to the friend) in two brain regions that are called the medial orbitofrontal cortex and the prefrontal cortex. This study surprisingly did not find more dopamine release when people viewed the beloved than the friend in the more typical dopaminergic regions that received more oxygen through blood in previous studies. So, more research is needed on whether and where dopamine is released when people see their beloved.
As another example, it has been suggested that romantic love is associated with low levels of serotonin because of its resemblance with obsessive-compulsive disorder. But in one study, women who were in love had higher serotonin levels in their blood than women who were not in love. And obsessive thinking about the beloved in these women was associated with higher, rather than lower, serotonin levels in their blood. So we cannot conclude at this time that romantic love is associated with low serotonin levels.
Crucially, to develop a “love pill” we would have to prove that changing the level of some neurotransmitter or hormone actually changes the intensity of love. But most studies so far have only compared people who are in love when they view pictures of their beloved with when they view other pictures. It would be informative, but more difficult, to compare people who are in love with people who are not in love. Or, even better, to compare people before and after they fall in love.
It would also be challenging to design a drug that changes love feelings for one person specifically, which would be desirable in at least some situations. For example, someone who is married might want to decrease their love feelings for a crush without changing (or while increasing) their love for their spouse. And because the neurotransmitters and hormones involved in love have many different functions, any love drug that affects the levels of these neurotransmitters or hormones may have side effects that could be adverse. So, unfortunately, it will be a while until you can use a love drug to change how in love you are, if ever.
However, there are many situations in which it might be beneficial to change how in love you are—and my research says that you can. The solution is not drugs, but rather intentional thinking.
In some situations, love feelings may be stronger than desired, such as when people are still in love with an ex-partner, when the love is forbidden, and when people are in love with someone who treats them poorly. In situations like those, people may want to decrease how in love they are, which can help them cope with heartbreak. It can also help people to stop pursuing an inappropriate partner or to put an end to a dysfunctional (e.g., abusive) relationship.
At other times, love feelings may be weaker than desired, such as when they decline over time in long-term relationships. In situations like that one, you may want to increase how in love you are, which could help you maintain long-term relationships.
Nevertheless, many people think that love regulation is difficult or even impossible. But my research suggests that people can become more or less in love by doing or thinking certain things. One study shows that something as simple as looking at pictures of the beloved increases infatuation and attachment. Another study finds that thinking about positive aspects of the beloved (“they are so smart,” “he is such a good cook”), the relationship (“we agree on how to spend our money”), and the future (“we’ll live happily ever after”) increases attachment. And yet another of my studies suggests that fantasizing about having sex with your beloved (such as imagining something you would like your partner to do to you during sex) increases sexual desire and infatuation. These are strategies that you can use to strengthen your love feelings for someone.
In another experiment, thinking about the negative aspects of the beloved (“she never puts the cap on the toothpaste”), the relationship (“we fight a lot”), and the future (“we won’t stay together forever”) decreased infatuation and attachment. These are strategies that you can use to weaken your love feelings for someone.
So, in contrast to what you may think, it is beneficial and possible to change how in love you are. Give it a try when you find yourself more or less in love than you’d like to be!
This article is a shortened and revised version of “ Refuting Six Misconceptions About Romantic Love ,” published in May 2024 by the journal Behavioral Sciences .
Sandra Langeslag, Ph.D. , is an associate professor in the Department of Psychological Sciences at the University of Missouri–St. Louis. She is the director of the Neurocognition of Emotion and Motivation (NEM) Lab. Her research focuses mainly on the interaction between romantic love and cognition.
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We all know that weddings, and the anniversaries that follow, come with tons of traditions. Sometimes, we know the meanings behind the traditions: Brides wear white to represent purity (and carry something blue as a symbol of fidelity), wedding rings are worn on the left hand because the left side has a direct line to the heart or and tossing rice symbolizes fertility and prosperity.
The idea of giving specific gifts for certain anniversaries gained steam in Victorian England, when couples were newly marrying for love. "When the love match was first invented it was very destabilizing and traditional conservatives were horrified by the idea," Stephanie Coontz, author of Marriage, a History , told Time . "What in the world will we do to get people married and keep them married if love is the main reason? And so there began to be this emphasis on building a love and commitment."
Of course, the Victorians didn't have final say over the list of traditional gifts. Emily Post is credited with solidifying a list for major milestone anniversaries in her 1922 Etiquette: in Society, in Business, in Politics and at Home . But even then, she only included eight suggestions for presents. Later, in 1937, the American National Retail Jewelers Association came out with a "modern" list , that called for more practical and less symbolic gifts. Gemstones, colors and flowers round out the anniversary-gift traditions.
For those just starting off on their newlywed journey, these are the traditional anniversary gifts by year. Start planning now, because your diamond anniversary will be here sooner than you think!
Like all wedding-related traditions, there are tons of different ways to celebrate your wedding anniversaries. Different lists might have different items for certain years, depending on what country's list you're looking at (the United States and United Kingdom sometimes diverge). And even within each country, there may be variations or options for certain years. This list will help you keep track of the most-often-used traditional anniversary gifts by year, as well as the modern gifts, the gemstones, the flowers and the colors for each year. We'll even give you a gift idea for each year to get you started off.
When you first get married, your life is a blank slate — hence the traditional first anniversary gift of paper . Those plain white sheets symbolize the blank pages on which you'll write the story of your lives together. According to the list of modern gifts, the first anniversary gift is clocks , for a similar reason: you two have all the time in the world.The traditional color of a first anniversary is yellow or gold , and the "gemstone" is gold , too (even though that's obviously a metal, not a gemstone). And, for that first-year bouquet, the traditional first anniversary flower is the simple carnation .
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As the anniversaries go on, the materials get sturdier. Cotton is used for second anniversaries because it's both soft and strong, just like your union. (The modern take is china , for the same reason — tough but fragile.) Also, the way that cotton is woven together represents the way that your lives are now forever intertwined.
The color for the second anniversary is red , and so too are the flower and gemstone. The flower is the cosmos , and the gem is the garnet — both come in a variety of colors, but look gorgeous in deep red hues.
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Leather : It's stronger than cotton, but still really flexible. By this point, three years into your marriage, you've probably been through a few ups and downs that have tested your strength, and come out the other side even heartier.
The modern third anniversary gift is crystal or glass , which is similar to china in that it can last forever, but is still very breakable. The color is white , so the corresponding gemstone is pearl . The flower, on the other hand, is the brilliant yellow sunflower .
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Why is the fourth anniversary fruit or flowers ? Aren't they more delicate than leather? The answer is that, after four years, your relationship has really blossomed, so fruit and flowers are only fitting.
The modern anniversary list says four years means you're due for an upgrade in appliances , which, if you're in the market, the Good Housekeeping Institute Appliance Lab can help you find the perfect gift.
And while the theme of the year means any bouquet of flowers would be appropriate, the traditional fourth anniversary flower is the geranium . The color is blue/green , echoing the color of the blue topaz gemstone.
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Five years in, you're solid. Solid like wood , the traditional fifth anniversary gift. And, like trees, you're still growing, too. The modern fifth anniversary gift is silverware , in preparation of all the family meals you've shared and will continue to share. (Life is too short to put up with old forks.)
Usually the colors of the gemstone and the flower line up, but this year they're disparate: The flower is the daisy , and the gemstone is a brilliant sapphire . Traditional colors are blue and pink .
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You are sweet. You are tough. So, for your sixth anniversary, you can go in either direction: candy or iron . (We'll take the candy every time, but that's just us.) Or you could take a third route, since the modern guide is catching up to the traditional one: The modern gift this year is wood .
Colors also give you a range of choice, as purple, white and turquoise are all appropriate. The sixth anniversary flower is the calla lily , popular in wedding bouquets, and the gemstone is the amethyst , which is said to protect the wearer from impurities.
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The seventh anniversary is all about cozying up. Wool is known for its warmth, and copper conducts heat, and the two elements represent the snuggly comfort of your marriage. The modern gift is a desk set , so you can send your warm wishes to your loved ones from afar.
The rest of the anniversary may seem black-and-white: The color is off-white or yellow , and the gemstone is onyx . The flower is freesia , which represents faithfulness (no seven-year itches here).
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The same way your marriage is a union of individuals, bronze is a union of copper and tin — and a strong one, too — making it the perfect eighth anniversary gift. Then again, the modern gift list takes on a much more refined tone, making the eighth year one for linens or lace .
The traditional color is also bronze , and the flower is the clematis . The gemstone is tourmaline , which is versatile because it comes in a range of colors.
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You, and your marriage, has transformed over time. Both willow ( wicker ) and pottery , the traditional ninth anniversary gifts, are materials that have also undergone a transformation due to the elements and emerged more beautiful. The same goes for the modern gift: leather .
Fittingly, the color of the ninth anniversary goes well with pottery: terracotta . Lapis lazuli is the gemstone, and the flower is poppy .
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The traditional 10-year anniversary gift is tin or aluminum , again as a symbol of strength. To be honest, that's a bit of a letdown after a decade of marriage. The modern gift list and the gemstone are in agreement on a present that's a little more deserving of the occasion: diamonds . Time for another ring to stack against that wedding band?
The traditional colors are silver and blue , and the flower is the sunny, happy daffodil .
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Many of the materials in the traditional anniversary gifts have been metal, and as they've progressed, the metals have gotten stronger, symbolizing the growing strength of your bond. The eleventh anniversary brings us to steel , the second-toughest metal in the world. The first is tungsten, which sadly does not make the anniversary list, though you can buy tungsten rings — fitting, since the modern gift for the year is fashion jewelry .
If you want to incorporate the eleventh-anniversary gemstone into that fashion jewelry, you'd buy something with turquoise in it. (The color is turquoise , too.) The flower is either the morning glory, or the tulip .
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The twelfth anniversary gifts represent aspects of your relationship other than its strong bond: Linen stands for purity, while silk represents elegance. The modern gift is pearls , which symbolize wisdom. In either case, you're coming up in the world.
Pearl is also the gemstone, though it can also be jade , and the colors are therefore oyster white or jade green . The flower is a peony , which has big, round blooms reminiscent of a pearl.
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Who says 13 is unlucky? Not when you get lace as a 13th anniversary gift, with the delicate, intricate pattern representing how your lives have become inextricably intertwined. The modern gift — textiles — works off the same idea. You're one woven fabric now.
Even luckier, the 13th gemstone is the bright citrine , and the flower is the chrysanthemum , which often symbolizes royalty. The color is an antique white , just like lace.
The fourteenth anniversary is traditionally the ivory anniversary, and to that, we say no thank you. You can use the tradition as inspiration to get an ivory-colored gift — the color of the year is ivory , too — or go with the modern gift: gold jewelry .
The perfect stone to go in that gold jewelry? Opal , the gemstone for the year, which is perfect for gift-giving because legend says it's unlucky to buy an opal for yourself. The traditional flowers of the year are orchids and dahlias .
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What better way to toast your 15th anniversary than with some brand-new crystal to hold your libations? Or you can go with the modern interpretation: watches . Or get a watch with a crystal face, and kill two birds with one stone.
The 15th anniversary gem and color go hand in hand: the gemstone is ruby , and the color is red . The flower is roses , so feel free to get a big bouquet of red ones to celebrate such a milestone year.
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After 16 years, you still have that spark, and you know how to make each other melt. Sounds like this is the perfect year for a wax anniversary gift. The modern equivalent is silver serving pieces , also called holloware. Do both, and you'll have a beautifully presented table where you can have you anniversary dinner.
The color is a beautiful emerald green , which coordinates with the peridot gemstone. The flower, on the other hand, is the bright purple and blue statice .
The 17th anniversary is furniture, a perfect time to look around, take stock and see what parts of your domicile need new home ideas and a design refresh. It just makes sense that both the traditional and the modern gift, then, would be furniture . Get something sturdy, to match the solidity of your bond. Maybe get something yellow , the color of the year.
The 17th anniversary gemstone is carnelian , which comes in a fiery red color that symbolizes bold energy and warmth. And to match it, the flower circles back to the red carnation .
Your love will last forever. So too will this durable porcelain , which is both the traditional and modern gift of the year. Porcelain is also made of clay that has been tested by fire and made stronger, just as your relationship has undergone some trials of its own.
When it comes to flowers, though, it's anyone's choice: There is no traditional flower associated with the 18th anniversary. The color, though, is blue , and the gemstone is the sparkling cat's eye .
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Bronze is the material so nice, it's on the list twice! It was the eighth anniversary gift, and it's back for the 19th, for both the traditional and modern lists. And there's no better way to show how enduring something is than circling back to it after more than 10 years and seeing how you view it differently. Bronze is also the color of the year.
The flower is a repeat, too: Chrysanthemums are the flower of the 19th year, especially ones that come in a bronze color. But the gemstone goes in a different direction, with the cool, blue aquamarine being the stone of choice for this year.
Marisa (she/her) has covered all things parenting, from the postpartum period through the empty nest, for Good Housekeeping since 2018; she previously wrote about parents and families at Parents and Working Mother . She lives with her husband and daughter in Brooklyn, where she can be found dominating the audio round at her local bar trivia night or tweeting about movies.
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Adolescence and emerging adulthood are both stages in which romantic relationships play a key role in development and can be a source of both well-being and negative outcomes. However, the limited number of studies prior to adulthood, along with the multiplicity of variables involved in the romantic context and the considerable ambiguity surrounding the construct of well-being, make it difficult to reach conclusions about the relationship between the two phenomena. This systematic review synthesizes the results produced into this topic over the last three decades. A total of 112 studies were included, following the Preferred Reporting Items for Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis Protocols (PRISMA-P) guidelines. On the one hand, these works revealed the terminological heterogeneity in research on well-being and the way the absence of symptoms of illness are commonly used to measure it, while on the other hand, they also showed that romantic relationships can be an important source of well-being for both adolescents and emerging adults. The findings underline the importance of providing a better definition of well-being, as well as to attribute greater value to the significance of romantic relationships. Devoting greater empirical, educational, and community efforts to romantic development in the stages leading up to adulthood are considered necessary actions in promoting the well-being of young people.
Since World War II, most conceptualizations of health have been focused on the absence of illness and disability [ 1 ]. Psychology was concentrated on repairing damage within a disease model of human functioning [ 2 ], paying almost exclusive attention to pathology and neglecting the study of the positive features that make life worth living [ 2 ]. It is currently known that the absence of pathology does not necessarily correlate with positive dimensions of health and well-being [ 3 , 4 ], and psychologists have begun to admit well-being as a relevant aim of study, as well as the factors that contribute to its encouragement [ 5 ]. Positive psychology was recently established as a new perspective specifically addressing the study of well-being, quality of life, strengths, and resources [ 2 , 6 ]. Within this framework, diverse approaches have emerged. In a general sense, well-being can be understood as optimal psychological functioning and experience [ 7 ]. More specifically, some theorists have defined it as a state characterized by a high degree of satisfaction with life and the experience of high levels of positive affect [ 8 ], while others have focused on the notion of a process of fulfilling human potentials, capacities, and virtues [ 7 ]. Despite this systematization of the theory, the diversity of terminology found in the different studies has led to a certain degree of controversy. Although, admittedly, this situation has contributed to a productive scientific debate, it has also led to considerable ambiguity and theoretical and methodological confusion. On the other hand, these approaches represent mainly personal evaluations of what well-being means, and they deal only fleetingly with the social dimension of the individuals involved. In this sense, it has been previously established that the desire for interpersonal attachment (the need to belong) is a fundamental human motivation [ 9 ], especially when it refers to romantic relationships. So important is relatedness that some theorists have defined it as a basic human need, essential for well-being [ 9 , 10 , 11 , 12 ]. For example, in their 2002 study, Diener and Seligman examined extremely happy people to determine necessary conditions for entering this group [ 13 ]. They found that good and strong personal relationships were ubiquitous in these people. Nevertheless, the topic of relationships is complex and close relationships are multifaceted, justifying with this a study of specificity, in terms of the aspects of relationships that can promote well-being [ 7 ].
From an evolutionary point of view, adolescence and emerging adulthood (the periods which span the second and third decades of life [ 14 , 15 ]) have been described as being vitally important in terms of the development of romantic relationships [ 16 , 17 , 18 ]. Defined as “mutually acknowledged ongoing voluntary interactions” [ 18 , 19 ], these relationships, unlike others such as friendships, are characterized by a particular intensity, specific expressions of affection, and initiation in erotic sexual encounters [ 19 ]. Previous studies have shown that these experiences are frequent during adolescence and tend to consolidate over time [ 20 , 21 ], representing an important context for learning and training for future intimate relationships [ 14 ]. By middle adolescence, most boys and girls have been involved in at least one romantic relationship [ 21 ], providing them with a scenario characterized by greater intimacy, support, and importance as their age advances [ 22 , 23 ]. As adolescents approach emerging adulthood, the time they devote to their romantic partners increases [ 24 , 25 ], and they use these relationships to look for company, emotional security, intimacy, and the feeling of love they provide, until they reach a stage when they are ready to take decisions over questions of long-term commitment, such as cohabitation and marriage [ 26 , 27 ]. According to the developmental task theory, during adolescence, romantic involvement is an emerging developmental task, which will eventually become a salient developmental task in adulthood [ 28 ].
Romantic relationships and experiences are important sources of emotional bonding and contribute to the development of a positive self-concept and greater social integration [ 29 , 30 ]. The successful establishment and maintenance of romantic relationships can have important repercussions in later stages of life [ 15 ], and has been described to contribute to people’s mental and physical health and, therefore, to their well-being [ 31 ]. From this perspective, romantic relationships, when sustained over time, constitute a transformation of the attachment bond. The quality of the relationship, the history of the shared experiences, the sense of attachment, and the beliefs which arise from the whole experience have all been recognized as modulating the well-being of the partners [ 32 , 33 , 34 , 35 , 36 , 37 , 38 , 39 , 40 ]. Despite the fact that the wide range of aspects mentioned in the research makes it difficult to establish how direct an effect these relationships have on well-being, there is a broad consensus in the literature that love is one of the strengths most closely linked to personal happiness [ 41 , 42 ], and is associated with higher rates of self-esteem, safety, satisfaction with life, positive affect, and achievement of personal and relational goals [ 43 , 44 , 45 , 46 ]. However, romantic relationships have also been associated with negative outcomes, especially during adolescence. Thus, studies have suggested that romantic involvement may be related to the presence of different forms of violence [ 47 , 48 , 49 , 50 ], experiencing internalizing symptoms such as depression or anxiety (e.g., [ 37 , 51 , 52 ]), poorer psychosocial functioning [ 53 ], or delinquency [ 54 ].
Following these considerations, the empirical evidence suggests the important role that romantic relationships can play in people’s well-being, however, the number of studies focusing on stages prior to adulthood remain relatively limited, consequently not providing clarifying results. Moreover, the wide range of intervening variables in the romantic context and the relative ambiguity of the concept of well-being make it difficult to draw conclusions. Therefore, a work of synthesis is required to gather together the accumulated empirical knowledge and facilitate an understanding of the findings made so far in relation to the association between well-being and romantic relationships in adolescence and emerging adulthood. To do this, the general aim of this study was to carry out an exhaustive review of the existing literature in order to delve deeper into this topic. In particular, a specific aim was established: To identify the variables of romantic relationships that studies have associated with the well-being of young people.
2.1. literature search and quality assurance.
A structured search was carried out between July and September 2017 in the following databases of high-quality standards, which include peer-reviewed studies: Scopus, Web of Science, PsycINFO and Scielo. The Preferred Reporting Items for Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis Protocols (PRISMA-P) Declaration was applied [ 55 ], following its protocol for the planning, preparation, and publication of systematic reviews and meta-analyses [ 56 ]. The search terms used included keywords in Spanish and English which were considered to be indicators of well-being (bienestar*, well-being*, wellbeing*, “wellbeing”, felicidad*, happiness*, “fortalezas psicológicas”, “psychological strengths”, florecimiento*, flourishing*, “desarrollo positivo”, “positive development”) and keywords linked to romantic relationships (dating*, “relaciones sentimentales”, “sentimental relationships”, “relaciones románticas”, “romantic relationships”, cortejo*, courtship*, “relaciones íntimas”, “intimate relationships”). In order to achieve a comprehensive overview of the state of research in this field, the search did not include any specific terms (e.g., psychological well-being, subjective well-being, hedonia, eudaimonia, hooking up, friends with benefits, etc.).
The inclusion criteria were established following the PICOS (acronym for Participants, Interventions, Comparisons, Outcomes and Study design) format [ 57 ]:
Additional exclusion criteria included theoretical studies, doctoral theses, systematic reviews, meta-analyses, book chapters, reports from conferences or symposia, letters to the editor, minutes of meetings or informative notes, and studies in which the authors did not provide information about the participants’ age.
Three matrices of documentary records were created specifically for this work. In the first, quantitative data on the search results were collected for each database consulted and each of the descriptors used. In the second, information was gathered from each selected or unselected study (e.g., title, author/s, year of publication, sample size, age of participants, study objectives, methodology, or reason for exclusion, where appropriate). The third recorded the well-being measures and the specific variables of the romantic context analyzed by the studies. The selection of studies was performed in different stages [ 58 ] ( Figure 1 ). The identification stage was limited to articles published in English and Spanish between 1990 and 2017 (inclusive). This first phase yielded a total of 3229 studies. In the screening stage, the duplicates were discarded, which left a total of 2866 studies. Next, two reviewers selected the studies whose title, summary, or keywords contained any of the search descriptors used, which produced a total of 461 eligible studies and a total of 2405 rejected studies. In the eligibility stage, all the reviewers independently assessed the full text of the potential studies to be included, initially reaching a level of agreement of over 90% and resolving any discrepancies through a process of discussion and consensus. In the included stage, the three reviewers jointly agreed on the full sample of studies, resulting in a total of 112 studies. The software packages Mendeley version 1.17.12 (Elsevier Inc., New York, NY, USA) and SPSS version 22 (IBM Corp., Armonk, NY, USA) were used to carry out the process of coding and obtaining the results.
Preferred Reporting Items for Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis (PRISMA) flow diagram.
This work has reviewed nearly three decades of research (1990–2017) on well-being and romantic relationships during adolescence and emerging adulthood. Of the 112 studies included (see Table 1 ), 9% were published in the 1990s, 27% in the first decade of this century, and 64% were published since 2010. The total number of participants was 278,871, with the amount of participants ranging from 30 in some studies [ 59 , 60 ] to 81,247 participants in another [ 47 ]. The general age range was from 12 to 70 years, with the average age never surpassing 29 years in any of the studies. Overall, 83% of the studies (n = 93) were directed at emerging adulthood, while 17% (n = 19) focused on adolescence. Regarding the well-being measures observed, the studies analyzed used as many as 142 different variables, of which the most commonly employed were life satisfaction (35.3%), depression (25%), affect (positive and negative, 22.8%), self-esteem (17.6%), relationship satisfaction (15.4%), anxiety (11%), happiness (8.1%) and stress (5.9%).
Characteristics and main findings of the included studies.
Reference | Age Range/School Level, Mean Age (SD) | Well-Being Measures | Main Findings | |
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[ ] | 81,247 | 9th–12th grades, NR (NR) | Mood, stress, sadness, worry, hopelessness, and life satisfaction. | Date violence and rape are associated with higher rates of suicidal thoughts and attempts, and lower scores of well-being. |
[ ] Study 4 | 119 | NR, 21 (NR) | Level of happiness. | Explicit expressions of commitment were positively related with happiness. |
[ ] Study 5 | 73 | 18–57, 28 (NR) | Positive emotion. | |
[ ] | 553 | 20–30, 23.42 (3.27) | Happiness, interest in life, life satisfaction, positive affect; autonomy, environmental mastery, personal growth, positive relationships, purpose in life, self-acceptance (Ryff’s model of psychological well-being); social acceptance, social actualization, social contribution, social coherence and social integration (Keyes’ model of social well-being). | Single individuals reported lower well-being than partnered individuals. |
[ ] | 151 | 20–26, 22.48 (2.01) | Happiness, interest in life, life satisfaction, positive affect; autonomy, environmental mastery, personal growth, positive relationships, purpose in life, self-acceptance (Ryff’s model of psychological well-being); social acceptance, social actualization, social contribution, social coherence and social integration (Keyes’ model of social well-being). | Voluntarily and involuntarily single young adults differed neither regarding well-being. |
[ ] Step 2 | 185 | 20–32, 22.59 (3.23) | Happiness, interest in life and life satisfaction, positive affect; autonomy, environmental mastery, personal growth, positive relationships, purpose in life, self-acceptance (Ryff’s model of psychological well-being); social acceptance, social actualization, social contribution, social coherence and social integration (Keyes’ model of social well-being). | Relationship status satisfaction was found to be a good predictor of life satisfaction and well-being. |
[ ] | 67 couples | 19–56, 25.16 (6.33) | Daily relationship satisfaction and daily relationship connection. | Gratitude from interactions predicted increases in relationship connection and satisfaction. |
[ ] | 53 couples | 23–53, 29 (NR) | Life satisfaction and relationship satisfaction. | Partner responsiveness to gratitude expressions was related with greater well-being. |
[ ] Study 2 | 77 couples | Males: NR, 19.90 (2.31) Females: NR, 19.30 (1.20) | Life satisfaction. | As efficacy expectations shared between partners increased, the degree of their life satisfaction also increased. |
[ ] | 63 couples | NR, 21.60 (2.79) | Happiness toward the relationship, closeness and intimacy. | Relationship identification predicted association between partner transgressions and well-being. |
[ ] | 309 | 16–24, NR (NR) | Life satisfaction, positive/negative affect, optimism and self-esteem. | Minority stress components were negatively related to well-being, however, the impact of “expected rejection” on well-being was buffered for those involved in a romantic relationship. |
[ ] Study 1 | 76 | NR, 22.43 (5.11) | Sadness. | Relationship maintenance behaviors were negatively associated with sadness when intimates subsequently reported high relationship satisfaction, but positively associated when intimates subsequently reported low relationship satisfaction. |
[ ] Study 3 | 135 | NR, 26.90 (4.57) | Depressive mood. | Tendency to compromise during problem-solving was associated with less depressive mood among people who subsequently were more satisfied with their relationship. |
[ ] | 139 | 17–51, 28.4 (6.9) | Mood, capacity to enjoy and relax, and capacity for social contact. | Implicit attitudes towards partners correlated significantly with explicit attitudes, secure attachment, and well-being. |
[ ] Study 1 | 89 | 18–23, 19.3 (NR) | Relationship satisfaction. | Higher trait mindfulness predicted higher relationship satisfaction and greater capacities to respond constructively to relationship stress. |
[ ] Study 2 | 60 couples | 18–25, 20.05 (NR) | Relationship satisfaction. | Trait mindfulness was found to predict lower emotional stress responses and positive pre- and post-conflict change in perception of the relationship. |
[ ] | 350 | 15–19, 17 (1.27) | Self-esteem, internalized homophobia, depression, and anxiety. | Involvement in same-sex relationships was associated with self-esteem and internalized homophobia, where the timing and sequence of both had different effects on males and females. |
[ ] | 52 | Males: NR, 22.29 (3.13) Females: NR, 21.29 (2.40) | Relationship satisfaction. | Couples who reminisced about events involving shared laugher reported higher relationship satisfaction. |
[ ] | 1584 | 18–25, 20.19 (NR) | Mental health problems, physical health problems, and overweight/obesity. | Individuals in committed relationships experienced fewer mental health problems and were less likely to be overweight/obese. |
[ ] Study 1 | 77 | 18–39, 20 (3.19) | Positive and negative affect. | People who were single for a shorter period of time were more likely to report higher levels of well-being. |
[ ] Study 2 | 236 | 18–49, 21.71 (5.63) | Positive and negative affect. | People who started a new relationship quickly had higher well-being compared to those who waited longer to begin their subsequent relationship. |
[ ] | 62 couples | NR, 19.47 (1.53) | Autonomy, environmental mastery, personal growth, positive relationships, purpose in life, self-acceptance (Ryff’s model of psychological well-being); life satisfaction and affect-balance. | Authenticity was related to engaging in healthy relationship behaviors, which in turn predicted positive relationship outcomes and greater well-being. |
[ ] Study 1 | 202 | NR, 18.81 (2.09) | Self-esteem, affect-balance, vitality, and life satisfaction. | Self-determined sexual motives positively predicted well-being. |
[ ] Study 2 | 147 | NR, 19.10 (1.76) | Self-esteem and life satisfaction. | Self-determined sexual motivation, sexual need satisfaction, well-being, and relational quality were positively intercorrelated. |
[ ] Study 3 | 44 couples | NR, 19.10 (1.76) | Self-esteem and life satisfaction. | Men’s and women’s self-determined sexual motivation predicted their own well-being, and men’s self-determined sexual motivation also predicted women’s well-being. |
[ ] | 12,203 | 12–19, 15 (NR) | Depression, conflicts, loneliness, anxiety, mental clarity, irritation, school performance, distrust, and to find it difficult to handle problems. | Adolescents in violent relationships are more likely to experience negative well-being outcomes. |
[ ] | 190 | 13–19, 15.9 (1.29) | Anxiety, depression, self-esteem, life satisfaction, and traumatic symptomology (stress and dissociation). | Increasing levels of dating violence were related to higher levels of post-traumatic stress and dissociation in girls. Victimization was related to higher levels of anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress in boys. |
[ ] Study 1 | 112 | 19–54, 22.04 (4.37) | Depressed mood, self-esteem, life satisfaction, fatigue, perceived acceptance by one’s partner, relatedness, and relationship satisfaction. | Emotional suppression was related to a greater depressive mood, greater fatigue, lower self-esteem, lower life satisfaction, and less relationship satisfaction. |
[ ] | 2214 | 17–25, 19.36 (1.51) | Difficulties in interpersonal relations, difficulties in social roles, and symptom distress. | Distress symptoms, difficulties in interpersonal relations, and difficulties in social roles were predicted by secure attachments to romantic relationships, among others. |
[ ] | 99 | 18–33, 23.12 (2.43) | Anxiety and depression. | Endorsement of marriage myths predicted positive experiences, whereas benevolent sexism predicted negative experiences. |
[ ] | 1040 | 18–24, 21.02 (1.92) | Depressive symptoms, anxiety symptoms, self-esteem, and sense of personal competency. | Negative appraisals of breakups were associated with lower well-being. Positive appraisals were associated with greater anxiety symptoms, self-esteem, and a sense of personal competency. |
[ ] | 2273 | 14–19, NR (NR) | Positive self-view, depressive feelings, alienation and expectation of success in school, relationships, work, and health. | Being in a dating relationship was associated with less alienation, more positive views of the self, and higher general expectations for success. Among sexually active youth, daters had lower levels of depression than non-daters. |
[ ] | 12,841 | 18–32, NR (NR) | Earnings, high relative income, and stability of employment histories. | Well-being had a weaker association with cohabitation than with marriage. |
[ ] | 5414 | 14–18+, NR (NR) | Quality of life (stress, depression, problems with emotions, physical health, and suicide ideation and attempts) and life satisfaction. | Among girls, dating violence victimization was associated with poor health-related quality of life and suicidal ideation or attempts. Among boys, dating violence perpetration was associated with a poor health-related quality of life and suicide attempts, and lower scores of life satisfaction. |
[ ] Study 1 | 102 | 18–25, 20.9 (1.7) | Depression and anxiety symptoms, relationship satisfaction, romantic attachment security, and relationship decision making. | Romantic competence was associated with greater security, healthier decision making, greater satisfaction, and fewer internalizing symptoms. |
[ ] Study 2 | 187 | NR, 19.65 (3.51) | Depression and anxiety symptoms, relationship satisfaction, and romantic attachment security. | |
[ ] Study 3 | 89 couples | Males: NR, 20.65 (1.82) Females: NR, 20.16 (1.63) | Relationship satisfaction, romantic attachment security, and relationship decision making. | |
[ ] | 102 couples | NR, 25.40 (5.08) | Autonomy, environmental mastery, personal growth, positive relationships, purpose in life, and self-acceptance (Ryff’s model of psychological well-being) | Touch was associated with enhanced affect in the partner and with intimacy and positive affect in the actor. Participants who were touched more often during the diary study week reported better well-being 6 months later. |
[ ] Study 1 | 221 | 19–28, 22.49 (4.65) | Global happiness. | Romantic relationship quality was positively related to happiness. |
[ ] Study 2 | 187 | 18–29, 22.02 (3.02) | Life satisfaction and positive and negative affect. | |
[ ] | 311 | 18–28, 22.75 (4.74) | Life satisfaction and positive and negative affect. | Romantic relationship quality and conflict were predictors of happiness. |
[ ] Study 1 | 43 | Undergraduate | Relationship satisfaction and commitment. | Limiting people’s attention to attractive alternatives reduced relationship satisfaction and commitment and increased positive attitudes toward infidelity. |
[ ] | 125 | 15–23, NR (NR) | Depression, anxiety, physical symptomology, perceived stress, self-esteem, mastery, and self-efficacy. | Sexual-minority youths had comparable self-esteem, mastery, and perceived stress as did heterosexuals, but greater negative affect. |
[ ] | 222 | College students | Life satisfaction and affect balance. | Well-being was positively associated with good-quality relationships. |
[ ] | 15 couples | 18–35, 24.9 (4.3) | Autonomy, competency, self-esteem, general life satisfaction, clarity/certain in life, social satisfaction, and social support. | Perceived understanding among romantic partners was positively associated with well-being. |
[ ] | 63 (time 1) | NR, 19.10 (NR) -time 1- | Life satisfaction, emotional well-being, self-esteem, loneliness, relationship satisfaction, and relationship breakup. | The Michelangelo phenomenon was positively associated with well-being. |
[ ] Study 1 | 53 couples (time 1) | NR, 19.94 (NR) -time 1- | Intimacy, agreement, effective problem solving, and shared activities. | A high and mutual commitment to the relationship was positively related to greater adjustment. |
[ ] | 1311 | NR, 20.5 (NR) | Body satisfaction, self-esteem, depressive symptoms, and suicidal ideation. | Scores of well-being were generally consistent across sex partner categories (stranger, casual, close, exclusive, spouse, other), and no significant associations between partner type and well-being were found. |
[ ] | 235 | 18–27, 21.73 (1.64) | Life satisfaction and positive and negative affect. | Relationship quality and need satisfaction were directly and indirectly related to well-being. |
[ ] | 567 | 15–19, 16.1 (1.01) | Psychological deterioration. | Psychological deterioration was one of the most common consequences of violence in dating relationships. |
[ ] | Married: 65 couples Dating: 66 couples | Married: NR, 28.39 (7.05) Dating: NR, 21.49 (2.14) | Relational satisfaction and stability. | A greater breadth of positive relationship experiences was concurrently and longitudinally associated with well-being. |
[ ] | 1500 | 15–25, 21.50 (2.99) | Expressions of love and support, communication, and perceived risk of negative relationship outcomes. | Congruence between relationship ideals and experiences was positively associated to well-being. |
[ ] | 58 couples | Males: NR, 22 (NR) Females: NR, 21 (NR) | Relationship satisfaction. | Paying more attention to positive partner behaviors rather than negative partner behaviors was positively associated to well-being. |
[ ] | 30 | 18–25, 23.4 (NR) | Level of happiness. | Romantic involvement was associated to a positive quality of life, positive feelings of happiness, and reducing negative states such as anger and sadness. |
[ ] | 1582 | North America: 18–54, 19 (0.13) Africa: 17–45, 25.18 (0.23) Europe: 17–66, 23 (0.35) | Life satisfaction with life, positive and negative affect, and personal satisfaction. | Attachment security was the main predictor of well-being in the American and European samples, while in the Mozambican samples it was the Eros love style. Attachment security and well-being was not gender-specific. |
[ ] | 61 couples | 16–20, NR (NR) | Depressive symptomatology and self-esteem. | Romantic relationships characterized by inequality in the contribution of emotional resources and in decision-making, were associated with greater psychological symptomatology. |
[ ] | 105 couples | 17–26, 19.2 (1.8) | Life satisfaction and positive and negative affect. | Higher goal conflict was directly associated with lower relationship quality and lower well-being. |
[ ] Study 2 | 56 | Male: 18–22, 19.3 (1.3) Female: 18–20, 18.5 (0.6) | Happiness, anger, worry, and sadness. | Engaging in goal-congruent activities with a partner was associated with the highest reports of well-being. |
[ ] Study 1 | 187 | 19–54, 21.51 (3.35) | Daily life satisfaction. | Single people high in avoidance goals were just as happy as people involved in a relationship. In addition, individuals high in approach goals experienced greater well-being, but particularly when they were involved in a relationship. |
[ ] | 92 | 18-27, 20.34 (2.28) | Perceived impact of body feedback. | Positive messages from partners about the own body increased confidence, self-acceptance, and sexual empowerment/fulfillment, whereas negative messages decreased these feelings. |
[ ] | 130 couples | Males: NR, 26.5 (4.2) Females: NR, 25.4 (3.5) | Marital satisfaction. | High levels of positive affect in conflict situations were positively associated with relationship satisfaction and stability. |
[ ] | 37,855 | NR, 29.8 (4.4) | Life satisfaction and positive affect. | Divorce predicted higher well-being when initial relationship quality was poor. |
[ ] | Sample 1: 78 couples Sample 2: 132 couples | Sample 1: 21–55, 25 (5.9) Sample 2: 18–67, 24.2 (5.8) | Psychological need fulfillment (relatedness, autonomy and competence—self-determination theory). | Anxious and avoidant attachment predicted lower well-being. |
[ ] | 68 | 18–36, 25.52 (3.74) | Depression, life satisfaction, and perceived stress. | Communal coping was unrelated to psychological distress. Partner overinvolvement in diabetes management had a mixed relation to outcomes, whereas partner under involvement was uniformly related to poor outcomes. |
[ ] | 387 | 14–17, 15.47 (1.05) -at enrolment- | Relationship quality, partner meets needs, fertility control attitudes, condom use efficacy, sexual negativity, sexual satisfaction, absence of genital pain, partner sexual communication, closeness to family, partner’s closeness to family, general communication with family, substance use, smoking, depression, thrill seeking, self-esteem, anticrime attitudes, anti-deviance attitudes, peer substance use, religiosity, attitudes toward education, community group membership, school group membership, and volunteer work. | Higher sexual health was significantly associated with less substance use, lower self-reported depression, lower thrill seeking, higher self-esteem, having fewer friends who use substances, higher religiosity, better social integration, a lower frequency of delinquent behavior and crime, and more frequent community group membership. |
[ ] | 30 couples | 18–25, 19.4 (NR) | Relationship quality satisfaction. | Correspondence between personal and normative scripts, and agreement between partners on personal scripts predicted well-being. |
[ ] Study 1a | 99 | NR, 18.72 (1.02) | Relationship valuation. | As participants’ chronic promotion concerns increased, the association between autonomy support and relationship valuation was stronger. |
[ ] Study 1b | 112 | NR, 27.78 (9.49) | Commitment and relationship satisfaction. | The perceived support of one’s autonomy needs within a romantic relationship was positively associated with well-being. |
[ ] Study 3a | 87 couples | NR, 20.55 (2.03) | Relationship quality. | Support for autonomy was judged more relevant among individuals concerned with promotion, while support for relatedness would be judged more relevant among individuals concerned with prevention. |
[ ] Study 2 | 153 | 18–38, 20.1 (2.4) | Positive and negative affect, life satisfaction, relationship satisfaction, quality, conflict, and commitment. | Approach motives for sacrifice were positively associated with well-being and relationship quality, while avoidance motives for sacrifice were negatively associated with well-being. |
[ ] Part 2 | 80 couples | 18–60, 23.9 (6.4) | Positive and negative emotions and life satisfaction. | Within-person increases in emotional suppression during daily sacrifice were associated with decreases in well-being. |
[ ] | 124 | 18–38, 20.2 (2.6) | Positive and negative affect, life satisfaction, relationship satisfaction, closeness, fun, and conflict. | Approach sex motives were positively associated with well-being, while avoidance sex motives were negatively associated. |
[ ] | 295 | Males: 18–21, 19.25 (NR) Females: 18–21, 19.19 (NR) | Self-esteem, loneliness, social anxiety, and avoidance. | Romantic relationship intimacy was positively associated to well-being |
[ ] | 691 | NR, 23 (NR) | Relationship happiness, life satisfaction, general happiness, distress symptoms, and self-esteem. | Individuals in happy relationships reported a higher level of well-being than did individuals in unhappy relationships. Married individuals reported the highest level of well-being, followed cohabiting, steady dating, and casual dating. |
[ ] | 184 | At age ≈ 14: 14.26 (0.76) At age ≈ 15: 15.21 (0.81) At age ≈ 25: 25.67 (0.96) | Positive and negative affect. | Early adolescent positive affect predicted fewer relationship problems and healthy adjustment to adulthood. |
[ ] | 193 | 17–23, 19.16 (1.20) | Relationship satisfaction and commitment. | Sexual compliance was negatively associated with well-being. |
[ ] | 113 | In-relationship group: NR, 21.8 (0.3) No-relationship group: NR, 21 (0.2) | Subjective happiness. | Being in a romantic relationship was associated with reduced gray matter density in striatum and increased subjective happiness. |
[ ] Study 1 | 62 couples | 18–37, 21.52 (3.51) | Positive and negative affect and life satisfaction. | Autonomy support between romantic partners was significantly positively related to goal progress. The beneficial effect of autonomy support was mediated by enhanced autonomous goal motivation. |
[ ] Study 3 | 426 | 18–58, 26.50 (7.53) | Autonomy support similarly promoted progress at vicarious goals. | |
[ ] | 231 couples | NR, 27.10 (NR) -time 4- | Dyadic adjustment. | Locomotion was positively associated with partner affirmation, movement toward the ideal self, and well-being. |
[ ] | 51 | 21–29, 27.02 (1.88) | Depressive symptoms and life satisfaction. | Relationship quality and forming subsequent romantic relationships after breakup did not predict the changes in well-being, whereas remaining single after a breakup was negatively associated with depressive symptoms. |
[ ] | 73 | 17–29, 19.5 (2.3) | Positive and negative emotions and life. | Higher levels of interdependence increased well-being if partners suppressed their negative emotions during sacrifice. |
[ ] | 209 | NR, 19.6 (1.6) | Psychological distress, alienation, life satisfaction, self-esteem, and psychological maturity. | Self-determination and a secure attachment style were both positively associated to well-being. |
[ ] Study1 | 362 | 18–57, 22.87 (7.47) | Physical and psychological symptoms and relationship commitment. | Greater romantic secrecy was associated with reduced commitment to relationship and more reported health symptoms. |
[ ] Study2 | 368 | 18–59, 22.47 (6.98) | Physical and psychological symptoms and relationship commitment. | Romantic secrecy was negatively associated with relational commitment and positively related to negative affect. |
[ ] | 32,479 | 11–16, 13.6 (1.4) | Life satisfaction. | Experiences of dating violence were associated with poorer well-being. |
[ ] | 203 couples | NR, 22.69 (5.49) | Positive and negative affect and life satisfaction. | Partner perfectionist concerns were negatively associated to well-being. |
[ ] | 100 | NR, 26.4 (0.86) | Happiness and positive and negative affect. | High levels of intimacy were positively associated to well-being. |
[ ] | 20,000 (4 cohorts) | C1-T1: 18; T10: 33 C2-T1: 17; T10: 30 C3-T1: 16; T9: 24 C4-T1: 17; T4: 20 | Life satisfaction. | Marriage and de facto relationships were positively associated to well-being. |
[ ] Study 1 | 473 | NR, 19.96 (2.81) | Depressive symptoms. | Experiencing situations of physical or psychological abuse was associated with lower levels of well-being. |
[ ] | 277 | NR, 29.79 (6.54) | Depressive symptoms, relationship satisfaction, and sexual functioning. | Communication had a beneficial effect on both the individual and the dyadic level in the context of existence of sexual problems. |
[ ] | 12,504 | 7th –12th grades | Depressive symptoms. | Interracial daters had greater odds of risk for depression than their non-dating and same-race dating peers. Experiencing a romantic breakup explained the elevated risk of depression for daters in general, and same-race daters specifically, but not interracial daters. |
[ ] | 1239 | 13–18, 15 (1.63) | Life satisfaction. | A significant, although weak interaction effect of stress related to romantic relationships by sense of coherence was found in association with life satisfaction for boys. The other interaction effects were nonsignificant in both genders |
[ ] | 461 | 17–21, 18.90 (1.14) | Loneliness, academic satisfaction, and stress. | A secure attachment style was positively associated with well-being. |
[ ] | 121 couples | NR, 19.5 (NR) | Relationship satisfaction, ambivalence, and conflict. | Partner idealization was positively associated with well-being. |
[ ] | 314 | European Americans: 18–59, 26.8 (10.5) Mexican Americans: 17–55, 26.1 (7.8) | Relational self-esteem and depression. | Power inequality was associated with a lack of authentic self-expression in both populations. A lack of authenticity negatively impacted psychological health, especially for Mexican Americans. |
[ ] | 264 couples | Males: NR, 27 (NR) Females: NR, 25 (NR) | Happiness with the marriage, satisfaction with the marriage, happiness with the level of equity in the marriage, perceived stability of the marriage, perceived certainty that they would still be married in 5 years, and frequency of thoughts of leaving the spouse. | Reporting abundant and positive experiences and giving positive meaning to them were associated with improved levels of well-being over time. |
[ ] | 832 | 17–54, 20 (2.85) | Psychological distress. | Young adults who reported negative and ambivalent emotional reactions to hooking up also reported lower well-being. |
[ ] | 122 | Victims: NR, 19.2 (NR) Nonvictims: NR, 19 (NR) | Psychological distress. | Psychological distress was not significantly predicted by coping strategies or the interaction of control and coping in situations of relationship violence. |
[ ] | 256 | 19–28, 23 (2.55) | Life satisfaction with life and positive and negative affect. | The maintenance of relational behaviors driven by self-determined motives was positively associated to well-being. |
[ ] | 161 | Undergraduate, 17–66, NR (NR) | Depression symptoms, life satisfaction, satisfaction with oneself, and physical health. | Having a romantic relationship was associated significantly with well-being, however, results showed that they may be detrimental to women’s well-being |
[ ] | 176 | NR, 20.94 (3.07) | Somatization, depression, anxiety and self-esteem. | Male gender roles, such as success, competitiveness, or power, were negatively associated with the well-being of partners. |
[ ] | 255 couples | Males: 20–45, 28.93 (4.05) Females: 20–45, 27.20 (3.31) | Relationship adjustment, sexual satisfaction, and sexual desire. | Dyadic empathy was positively associated to well-being. |
[ ] Study 2 | 400 | 18–26, 19.62 (1.95) | Psychiatric disorders. | Low relationship quality levels were negatively associated to well-being. |
[ ] Study 1 | 187 couples | NR, 24.97 (4.62) -time 1- | Dyadic adjustment. | Partner similarity was positively associated to well-being. |
[ ] Study 2 | 137 couples | NR, 26.45 (4.56) -time 3- | ||
[ ] | 58 | 18–23, 18.8 (1.1) | Religious well-being and existential well-being. | Forgiveness was associated with greater well-being. |
[ ] | 50 couples | 18–70, 22.75 (10.60) | Depression, life satisfaction, empathic concern, and relationship satisfaction. | Emotional interdependence between partners was positively related to well-being, especially regarding positive emotions. |
[ ] | 176 | 24–29, 24.13 (1.84) | Depression and anxiety. | Higher levels of anxiety and depressive symptoms predicted increases in negative romantic experiences. |
[ ] | 5316 | Boys: NR, 16.06 (1.51) Girls: NR, 15.76 (1.48) | Severe depression, suicidal ideation, and suicide attempt. | Romantic relationship inauthenticity was positively associated with the risk of depression, suicide ideation and attempt, but only for girls. |
[ ] | 2818 | 18–30, 24 (3.86) -waves 1 and 3- | Life satisfaction. | Relationship status was related to well-being, reporting married young adults the highest level. |
[ ] | 110 | 13–18, 16.7 (NR) | Depression, anxiety, self-esteem, mastery, and life satisfaction. | A high-quality relationship was associated with increased self-esteem. |
[ ] | 4564 | 11–21, 16.16 (1.51) | Depression and anxiety. | Interracial daters experienced more symptoms of depression and anxiety and poorer family relationships than same-race daters. |
[ ] | 100 (time 4) | Age 29 -time 4- | Depression and anxiety. | Romantic relationships turning points were related to well-being. A negative turning point was associated to greater depressive symptoms. A positive turning point or a formal turning point were associated to more healthy romantic relationships and a lower number of symptoms. |
[ ] | 11,695 | 18–28, 21.82 (1.85) | Life satisfaction. | Married young adults reported higher life satisfaction than those in other type of romantic relationships, those in no romantic relationship, and those who married prior to age 22. |
[ ] | 466 | 16.22, 17.82 (0.92) | Depression symptoms and self-esteem. | Dating violence victimization was linked with symptoms of depression and a lower self-esteem. |
[ ] | 3258 | 15–21, NR (NR) | Self-esteem, depression, isolation, verbal aggression, delinquent behaviors, benevolent sexism, and hostile sexism. | Adolescents who had a very good-quality relationship reported higher levels of psychological adjustment. |
[ ] Study 1 | 127 couples | NR, 23.33 (3.65) | Life satisfaction, stress, and relationship satisfaction. | Self-control significantly predicted higher life satisfaction and lower stress. However, relationship satisfaction was not significantly predicted by self-control. |
[ ] Study 2 | 149 couples | NR, 25.83 (4.41) | Life satisfaction, subjective well-being, psychological and dyadic adjustment. | Self-control predicted higher life satisfaction, well-being, psychological adjustment, dyadic adjustment, and relationship satisfaction. |
[ ] | 666 | 18–24, NR (NR) | Depression, anxiety, life satisfaction and self-esteem. | Hook-ups were associated with higher well-being for women and lower well-being for men. |
[ ] | 119 | NR, 23 (2.28) | Autonomy, environmental mastery, personal growth, purpose in life, positive relationships, and self-acceptance (Ryff’s model of psychological well-being). | Positive relationship quality was found to be a mediator between forgiveness (seeking and self) and well-being. |
[ ] | 145 | 18–25, 21.10 (1.75) | Happiness, psychological distress, and self-esteem. | Low attachment anxiety in romantic relationships predicted happiness; low attachment anxiety and high self-efficacy predicted low psychological distress; less fear of negative evaluation from the partner and high self-efficacy positively predicted self-esteem. |
[ ] | 484 | 18–25, 19.13 (1.47) | Depressive symptoms. | Higher relationship quality was positively associated with well-being. |
[ ] Study 2 | 60 | NR, 19.7 (2.78) | Depressive symptoms. | Self-blame predicted depressive affect to the extent that participants forgave themselves. |
[ ] | 506 | 17–24, 20.79 (1.24) | Relational self-esteem and relational depression. | Higher levels of self-compassion were related to greater likelihood to compromise, as well as greater authenticity, lower levels of emotional turmoil, and higher levels of well-being. |
[ ] | 31 | 21–24, 22.1 (0.98) | General affect and life satisfaction. | Forgiveness was positively related to improvement in anxiety, depression, and well-being. |
[ ] | 148 couples | 17–29, 20.8 (3.8) | Anxiety, depressed mood, positive well-being, self-control, general health, and vitality. | Individuals with better well-being reported more positive romantic behaviors. |
Note: NR = information not reported.
Achieving the specific aim of this study involved reviewing the variables of romantic relationships which have been associated with well-being during adolescence and emerging adulthood. These variables were sorted into two categories: First, the label “relational variables”, where studies analyzing characteristics of romantic relationships and the processes that take place within them were grouped. Secondly, the label “personal variables”, which gathered the studies that examined individual variables involved in establishing, forming, and/or developing romantic relationships (see Table 2 ).
Categories, specific romantic variables, and measurement constructs of the included studies.
Category | Variables (Number of Studies) | Measurement Constructs | Included Studies (Reference) | |
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Relationship status (17) | Singlehood; relationship status (single/married/engaged/cohabiting/divorced, dating steadily/dating multiple people, etc.). | [ , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ] | ||
Relationship quality (15) | Relationship adjustment; intimacy; communication; expectations about the future; conflicts; companionship; intimacy; reliable alliance; affection; relationship satisfaction; commitment; trust; passion; love; social support; depth; conflict; relationship happiness; acceptance; understanding; dyadic adjustment; positive and negative partner behaviors. | [ , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ] | ||
Relationship history and experiences (12) | Relationship development; oral history coding; gratitude; daily interactions with partner; perception of partner responsiveness to gratitude expression; reminiscing about laughter; positive and negative events; relationship power; abuse; conflicts or disagreements; courtship story; relationship violence; negative romantic experiences; turning points. | [ , , , , , , , , , , , ] | ||
Commitment and intimacy (7) | Expression of commitment; mutuality; level of commitment; relationship status; long term orientation; feelings of psychological attachment; closeness; security; care; understanding; perceptions of positive intimacy; intimacy frequency and intensity; sexual intimacy; intimacy narrative. | [ , , , , , , ] | ||
Romantic attachment (7) | Romantic attachment style. | [ , , , , , , ] | ||
Communication and conflict resolution (5) | Partner messages; reciprocity; affect; disclosure of sexual problems; dyadic empathy; self-compassion. | [ , , , , ] | ||
Need fulfillment (7) | Autonomy, competence and relatedness satisfaction (SDT); social support. | [ , , , , , , ] | ||
Relational and personal goals (6) | Michelangelo phenomenon; goal progress; goal congruence; goal support. | [ , , , , , ] | ||
Dating violence (7) | Physical/verbal/sexual/psychological/ emotional victimization; physical/emotional/verbal aggression; rape. | [ , , , , , , ] | ||
Sexual minority youth (3) | Same sex relationships. | [ , , ] | ||
Interracial relationships (2) | Interracial daters; same-sex daters; non-daters. | [ , ] | ||
Sexuality (2) | Sexual activity; sexual health. | [ , ] | ||
Others (7) | Emotional interdependence | Daily interactions; mood; partner support; daily emotions. | [ , , ] | |
Shared efficacy | Relationship efficacy of dyad. | [ ] | ||
Partner perfectionistic concerns | Socially prescribed perfectionism; concern over mistakes; self-criticism. | [ ] | ||
Neurological effect | Striatum gray matter density. | [ ] | ||
Personal Variables | Romantic relationship inauthenticity (1) | Ideal romantic relationship events vs. actual events. | [ ] | |
Sense Of Coherence (1) | Comprehensibility; manageability; meaningfulness. | [ ] | ||
Positive and negative affect (1) | Affective arousal. | [ ] | ||
Relationship expectations and believes (4) | Relationship scripts; marriage myths; benevolent sexism; positive illusions. | [ , , , ] | ||
Behaviors (9) | Negative maintenance behaviors; authenticity; theory of mind; sexual compliance; self-control. | [ , , , , , , , , ] | ||
Motivation (8) | Forgiveness; approach and avoidance motives; emotional suppression and expression; sacrifice. | [ , , , , , , , ] | ||
Coping (4) | Explicit attitudes towards partner; mindfulness; coping strategies. | [ , , , ] | ||
Others (4) | Reactance | Attitude toward infidelity. | [ ] | |
Gender role conflict | Men’s thoughts and feelings concerning gender role behaviors. | [ ] | ||
Romantic Competence | Insight; mutuality; emotion regulation. | [ ] | ||
Abilities | Self-efficacy; relational anxiety. | [ ] |
A total of 87 studies analyzed the association between romantic relationships and well-being based on relational variables. Relationship status, relationship quality, and relationship history and experiences were the variables most commonly focused on in the studies. In general, particularly during emerging adulthood, participants involved in a romantic relationship showed higher levels of well-being than those who were single. More specifically, it was suggested that staying single, either voluntarily or involuntarily, and remaining so in order to avoid the negative consequences of relationships (avoidance goals) was not associated with well-being, with the best predictor being satisfaction with that status. Particular aspects of relationship status, such as the stability of the relationship or the experience of splitting up, have been widely studied. Studies that equated commitment to romantic status suggested that a higher level of commitment or stability in the relationship (marriage vs. cohabitants, non-marital relationships, casual relationships, etc.) leads to a greater well-being. In this regard, a specific case analyzed was hook-up experiences. These expressions of sexuality, outside the context of a committed relationship, were only negatively associated with well-being in one study. Similarly, the experiences of separation or divorce have been identified with increased well-being if these events were evaluated positively, if the quality of the relationship was poor, or if a new relationship started shortly after the separation.
Along similar lines, the studies also evaluated the role of well-being in relationship quality, with relationship satisfaction, commitment and intimacy being the most common indicators. Throughout the periods of adolescence and emerging adulthood, high levels of quality in the relationship were positively associated with well-being, while, similarly, low levels of quality were linked to negative effects. In cases of transgression, the quality of the relationship was also identified as a mediator between forgiveness and the well-being of the transgressor. Close to the findings regarding relationship quality are those associated with relationship history and experiences. The studies in this line showed that reporting and remembering a large number of positive experiences, such as shared laughter, being at a formal or positive relational turning point, or expressing gratitude towards the partner, were all positively associated with well-being, while negative experiences, such as arguments, transgressions, power imbalance, or violence, were associated with a decrease in well-being levels.
When considered independently and not as indicators of the relationship quality, rates of commitment and intimacy between partners have also been identified as variables which can influence well-being: High levels of commitment to the relationship and intimacy between romantic partners were positively associated, where low levels of commitment showed an inverse relationship. Likewise, romantic attachment can also have important implications. The studies indicate that a secure romantic attachment would be most beneficial, while avoidant and anxious attachment have been suggested as reliable predictors of low levels of well-being.
Communication and conflict resolution between partners have both been identified as variables with a significant effect on well-being. On one hand, the disclosure of sexual problems and receiving positive body feedback from the partner were both positively associated with well-being, while on the other hand, showing high levels of positive affect in conflict situations was found to be a good predictor of relationship stability and satisfaction. Likewise, self-compassion and dyadic empathy (empathy specifically expressed towards the romantic partner) were variables found to have a positive effect, where more self-compassionate individuals were more likely to resolve interpersonal conflicts by balancing their needs to their partner’s needs, feeling more authentic and less emotionally turmoiled. Similarly, high levels of empathy in couples in the transition to parenthood led to improved levels of well-being in the partners.
Variables concerning need fulfillment and achieving relational and personal goals have also been identified as related to well-being. A partner’s support to personal needs of autonomy, competence, and relatedness (Self-Determination Theory [ 8 ]), or the maintenance of relational behaviors driven by self-determined motives, were positively associated with well-being. Similar results were found in relation to the effects of the achievement of the ideal self and the congruence of the goals between partners. According to the studies, romantic partners can significantly influence what we become, having important implications for well-being, as well as the pursuit and involvement in activities aimed to achieve shared goals.
In the studies conducted during adolescence, violence occurring within the relationship (dating violence) in either form, both as a victim and as a perpetrator, has emerged as a highly significant negative variable for well-being, being associated to symptoms of anxiety, depression, stress, and low levels of self-esteem and life satisfaction, among other symptoms. Other relational variables associated with well-being during adolescence were the maintenance of same-sex relationships and interracial relationships, as well as sexuality. The negative impact caused by expected rejection due to sexual orientation was buffered by involvement in same-sex relationships, as well as improved self-esteem and decreased levels of internalized homophobia. Conversely, interracial daters were found to be more likely to suffer from depression and anxiety, as well as to perceive less support from parents and family, compared to same-race daters and non-daters. In relation to sexuality, results showed that the influence of sexual activity in depression was differentially associated with romantic status, where sexual relations associated with greater depressive symptoms corresponded to those that occurred outside the context of a romantic relationship. On the other hand, longitudinal data associated high sexual health with higher levels of well-being in adolescent girls, using indicators such as physical, mental/emotional, and social health.
To a lesser extent, the studies reviewed addressed aspects related to relationship dynamics and their association with well-being. Research into emotional interdependence (i.e., partners’ emotions being linked to each other across time), shared relationship efficacy (i.e., partners’ shared expectations about the joint ability to maintain satisfactorily the relationship), partner-specific perfectionism concerns, or the effect of relationships at the neurological level has rarely been contrasted with other studies. Despite this, the first two aspects were established as characteristics of healthy relationships with a positive influence on well-being, however, concerns about perfectionistic demands of the partner (perceived partner’s expectations about one’s own mistakes, self-criticism, and socially prescribed perfection) generated and evoked socially negative behaviors, which in turn had a deleterious effect on negative affect and life satisfaction.
Regarding the personal variables, a total of 25 works studied their relationship with well-being. Here, the variable which received the most attention was the belief system. It has been shown that, during adolescence, the imbalance between romantic expectations and reality (romantic relationship inauthenticity) is associated with a greater risk of depression and suicidal behavior, while the Sense of Coherence (SOC), a dispositional orientation or a coping resource which reflects a person’s capacity to respond to stressful situations and life events, is linked with greater life satisfaction. In emerging adulthood, relationship expectations and beliefs were also suggested as factors influencing well-being. The congruence between previous expectations and reality, or between the ideal and the real romantic relationship, has been identified as a good indicator of well-being. There is no general consensus over the results for other kinds of beliefs, such as positive illusions (idealizing the partner), marriage myths, or benevolent sexism, although a number of studies have addressed them. The tendency is that the first two seem to be beneficial for well-being, while the latter showed a negative association.
In addition, certain types of behaviors, which may be induced by beliefs, also seem to impact well-being. On the one hand, behaviors which diminished satisfaction with the relationship, such as sexual compliance (voluntary maintenance of unwanted sex with a partner), have been negatively associated with well-being. On the other hand, behaviors linked to self-knowledge or positive management of the relationship, such as making attributions and reasoning about the mental state of others (i.e., theory of mind), self-control, authenticity (acting in a way which is congruent with one’s own values, beliefs, and needs), or the use of effective coping strategies in stressful events, were positively associated with well-being. In this sense, focusing on the problem or perceiving the situation as controllable had positive effects on well-being in cases of abuse or violence within the relationship. In less serious cases, maintaining an implicitly positive attitude towards the partner and mindfulness obtained similar results.
Regarding cognitive, emotional, and behavioral motivation, self-forgiveness or approach and avoidance motives were revealed as indicators of well-being. According to the analyzed studies, forgiving the partner or forgiving oneself, regarding harmful relationships events, was positively related to well-being. Moreover, engaging sexually with the partner increased well-being, but only when these motives were based on approximation towards positive consequences (e.g., happiness of the partner or promoting the intimacy of the relationship) and not on the avoidance of negative consequences. Similar results were found in relation to sacrifice. Self-sacrificing aimed at achieving beneficial goals, that is, pro-social behavior which gives priority to benefits to the relationship over personal benefit, has also been positively related to well-being. Conversely, emotional suppression, limiting one’s partner’s attention towards attractive alternatives, or the pursuit of traditionally masculine roles (e.g., success, competition, or power) negatively affected the partner. Finally, the level of romantic competence and other skills that promote the establishment and successful maintenance of relationships, such as perceived self-efficacy, or the ability to control relational anxiety, have been strongly linked to positive results, as well as a greater ability to make better decisions and feel more confident and satisfied with the relationship.
The main aim of this study has been to carry out a systematic review of the scientific literature on the association between romantic relationships and well-being during adolescence and emerging adulthood, focusing on identifying the specific variables associated with well-being in the romantic context.
In the first place, it is important to stress that well-being has been historically been measured in many different ways. The great number of variables observed have produced a potential problem of construct validity. It seems clear that the multiple conceptual and operational definitions used in the empirical studies on well-being hinder rather than help when it comes to defining this construct [ 151 , 152 ]. It is therefore important to continue trying to bring clarity to a field which is still in evolution, with previous works and new approaches still trying to be integrated [ 6 ]. Although this has its positive side, it also highlights a greater need for improving the theoretical approaches, making them more global in terms of personality and also more precise in terms of the relationship between personality traits and relational styles in romantic processes. Another aspect which may contribute to the lack of clarity in the concept of well-being is the continued use of symptoms of mental illness as an indicator. While it is true that not all of the studies reviewed used this clinical approach, but rather adopted models from positive psychology (e.g., [ 22 , 33 , 44 , 85 , 97 , 98 ]), there is still a prevalent tendency to conceptualize well-being in terms of the absence of disease or clinical symptoms, rather than providing a positive approximation to the concept. This is quite surprising, especially considering that it has previously been established that health and mental illness work in a relatively independent manner [ 153 ], and that the factors which make either reduce do not necessarily cause the other to increase [ 154 ]. The concept of mental health proposed by positive psychology is therefore of particular relevance here, although the definition used (the existence of a high level of well-being and the absence of mental illness) [ 153 , 155 ] suggests the need to develop a methodologically diverse theory which would include the full spectrum of well-being [ 151 ] and to adopt a theoretical approach according to the concepts measured, which, as of yet, none is present in the reviewed works.
In the second place, it is clear that the scientific literature stresses the importance of romantic relationships during adolescence and emerging adulthood [ 18 , 156 , 157 ], however, the small number of studies which have focused specifically on these stages show that there is a need to provide a specific psycho-evolutionary focus. Based on the works reviewed, it can be stated that romantic relationships are significantly associated with well-being in adolescents, although a number of different personal and relational variables can be understood as risk factors. A low SOC, a lack of authenticity, or the presence of violence in relationships [ 37 , 48 , 49 , 59 , 78 , 83 , 108 , 122 , 142 ], are harmful to adolescents, all of which can be explained from different perspectives. On the one hand, according to the normative trajectory model [ 158 ], early romantic experiences can compromise the well-being of adolescents when dealing with non-normative development events. On the other hand, the stress and coping model [ 159 ] postulates that romantic relationships are intrinsically challenging, requiring skills and resources that adolescents may not have. Following studies like those of [ 160 ] and [ 161 ], it is also plausible to pose the counter-argument that high levels of well-being could act as a protective factor, promoting healthy behaviors. Research with adult populations has already established this association and suggests that people with high levels of life satisfaction are more involved in intimate activities and relationships and have better relationships [ 13 , 85 , 162 ]. The association between well-being and romantic experiences during adolescence seems, therefore, to operate under a bidirectional pattern of influence, revealing with this the existence of a more complex relationship between both processes. Besides this, it is also especially important to remember that the romantic development of adolescents does not take place in a social vacuum, so it is vitally important for the well-being of adolescents to have social contexts which provide support and emotional understanding as they face the demands and challenges that this new evolutionary task lays on them [ 163 ].
Just like in adolescence, involvement in romantic relationships can be a significant source of well-being in emerging adulthood. The research reviewed suggests that young adults who have romantic relationships are happier, feel more satisfied with their lives, have fewer problems with mental and physical illness, show greater positive affect, and have better levels of self-esteem than single people. However, as noted above, the phenomenon of romantic relationships is complex and multifaceted and is associated with both relational and personal factors, and not only with their presence or absence. The relationship quality, the satisfaction of the needs of autonomy, competence and relatedness and a secure attachment with the partner have been indicated as strong indicators of well-being [ 7 , 164 ]. In addition, variables such as high levels of commitment, intimacy, communication, providing support to achieve personal and relational goals, good conflict management, approach motives (in contrast to avoidance), authenticity, or having strategies for coping with stressful situations, are also associated with good results, as confirmed by other studies [ 165 , 166 ]. Finally, personal skills and having the competence to maintain healthy and satisfying relationships are important factors which, according to some studies, can reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety, increase satisfaction with the relationship, the development of a secure attachment, and foster better decision-making. For this reason, romantic relationships based on principles of mental and emotional health and romantic competence [ 23 , 167 ] are considered to be among the prime sources of well-being during emerging adulthood.
Based on these results, one of the main conclusions from this study is the invaluable role which romantic relationships play in well-being during adolescence and emerging adulthood. As a result, this work supports their consideration as developmental assets [ 14 ]. However, the numerous benefits which are associated with them call for certain parameters to be agreed on. A relationship which is beneficial for well-being would, in general terms, have high-quality levels, through which the partners can develop their potential, achieve personal and shared goals, and maintain a secure attachment. To achieve this, people must achieve certain cognitive, emotional, and behavioral skills. It is proposed that these principles be integrated into a more parsimonious analysis, which could aid our understanding of positive romantic relationships. From this viewpoint, this study proposes romantic well-being as a new term of analysis and suggests that in future research it can be understood and evaluated as a specific category. One of the main strengths of this work, therefore, is the initial approach of a new theoretical model, termed the multidimensional model of romantic well-being, whose dimensions correspond to the particular factors which, according to the research, play an especially important role in achieving positive results, namely relationship quality, need fulfillment, the achievement of personal and relational goals, romantic attachment, and the development of individual skills.
Regarding the empirical approach to well-being, the main conclusion here is that it is necessary to understand the concept of well-being in of itself, without continually referring to a disease or symptom. This distorts the construct and prevents from relating it to dimensions which are also complex and rather diverse, such as those involved in the psycho-evolutionary task of adolescents maintaining a romantic relationship. Therefore, further research is required to establish a common, shared, and reliable theoretical and methodological framework for well-being, also allowing the ability to address the scientific study of romantic relationships in stages prior to adulthood, especially during adolescence. It is essential to adopt educational, clinical, and community models which focus on the need to promote positive, healthy, and satisfactory relationships, as well as raising awareness of this need among all professionals responsible for people’s health.
This study has been developed with the contribution of all its authors. Conceptualization, C.V. and R.O.-R.; Methodology, M.G.-L. and C.V.; Formal analysis, M.G.-L; Writing—original draft preparation, M.G.-L.; Writing—review and editing, M.G.-L., C.V. and R.O.-R; Supervision, C.V. and R.O.-R.
This research was funded by Plan Nacional, España, into the frame of the national project “Competencia Socio-Moral y Ecología del Grupo de Iguales en la Violencia entre Escolares: un Estudio Longitudinal y Transaccional” [PSI2016-74871-R].
The authors declare no conflict of interest.
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